02 Nov Happiness is…effectively managing negative people
by Dr. Happy (www.drhappy.com.au)
I’ve often written about how happiness is a “team sport”; that is, it’s not just about me it’s also, and just as much about you.
Happiness at least partially comes from building positive relationships; from finding and from spending time with those positive people who energise you and who, after you’ve spent time with them, make you hungry for more of their enthusiasm or calmness or whatever it is they have that’s pleasant to be with.
But, as we all know, there are always people in our lives who’re not necessarily positive; whose influence on us and on our moods can be downright negative and draining. Although we should all try to connect with the people who can make our lives better, some people don_ã_t want to make your life better.
Instead, they want to destroy it. Some of these people want to suck you dry, while others want to con you, thwart you, bully you, or make you the scapegoat for their mistakes.
To save or protect yourself, you might need to consider stripping these people of the power to hurt you; and there are at least three ways to do this.
- The first is to confront these people directly.
- The second is to neutralize them.
- The third is to walk away and make sure they don_ã_t follow you.
Do you have anyone in your life who’s a positivity vampire? Do you have people in your life you dread having to see? If so, give some thought to what your best option might be because if you keep on doing what you’ve always done you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got…do you want things to continue as they are?