11 Nov You don’t have to be “positive” all the time; in fact you shouldn’t be
It’s a complete myth to believe that you should or can be happy and positive all the time.
In fact, it’s more than this, it’s unhealthy and unhelpful.
Some things in life are bad; some days are hard. Life is complex and messy and it isn’t always easy to deal with all the very many hard things.
But that doesn’t mean there isn’t a constructive way.
There is; there’s a path between pessimism, hopelessness and helpless AND THE MORE USEFUL one of calm wisdom, the path where you see what is as it really is, allow yourself to feel what you should appropriately feel, and then do your best to deal with what’s going on with what you have available.
It’s OK not to feel OK. It’s also OK to feel lost and confused at times. I even wrote a whole book about this (“Lost & Found: how to wander your way to a better life)!
But it’s also OK to let yourself feel all the feelings, to let go of that which is beyond your control, to do the best you can and then feel OK about everything, knowing you’ll do the best you can again tomorrow and the next day and so on.
And finally, you don’t have to do it all on your own. Reach out and ask for help; give help where and when you can. Because together, we’ll be more than OK.