What do I really mean when I talk about happiness?

What do I really mean when I talk about happiness?

I can’t believe I’ve not written about this before on this blog!

I know when I speak at events and conferences I almost always touch on this topic or address this question. But for some reason, I’ve been neglectful, and I don’t remember ever really writing about it, directly, here in this context.

And so today, I want to focus on what I really mean when I talk about happiness, about seeking or creating happiness, and about striving to enjoy more happiness in your life. 

Let’s begin by what I DON’T MEAN!

When I talk or write about happiness I DON’T MEAN … smiling and laughing every minute of every day, ignoring the cold hard realities of life and just believing everything is great, only experiencing positive emotions and never allowing yourself to feel upset or distressed in any way. I could go on but …

… I think you get the point. I’m not talking about and would never advocate what some might call toxic positivity and/or some form of completely unrealistic version of happiness that’s out of touch with what life’s really like.

So, with that being said, what AM I TALKING ABOUT?

When I use the word happiness or referring to creating positive emotions as often as possible I’m really referring to … doing the best you can, with what you’ve got, from where you are. I mean thriving and flourishing asa best you can within whatever situation you find yourself. Sometimes that’s just keeping your head above water.

Sometimes it’s really winning and succeeding and achieving all your goals and desires. Often it’s something in between and something that looks different every day. 

Happiness means different things to different people, and can look and feel different to the same person on different days. My point is that YOU can and need to define happiness; and YOU need to review and redefine it on a regular basis. In doing so, YOU can make happiness work for you, in good times and bad.