27 Oct An internal why is much stronger
Why do you do what you do?
There could be any number of answers to that; and none of them would necessarily be right or wrong.
Or maybe it’s more accurate to say all of them could be right and wrong.
There’s no perfect “why?”
But there are some “why’s” that might more more helpful and healthy than others.
By that, I mean that some “why’s” or some purposes might be more likely to create happiness and satisfaction than others.
What are these helpful why’s?
Well, in general, there ones that you determine and that you hold internally.
Many of us do what we do because we think it might make happy but we leave the decision for that to others. That is, we do what we do hoping others will approve, give us a tick of approval, or provide us with some sort of worth.
At times, this can happen.
But at other times, our efforts might be met with silence, or nothingness.
Why do we leave our happiness in the hands of others? Because that’s what many of us are taught. We grow up seeking the approval of our parents, our teachers, our peers and then our employers, colleagues, friends and, well, the list goes on.
None of this is completely irrational; but it can be unhelpful. Because again, we’re putting the onus of our happiness and wellbeing in the hands of others, which leaves it outside our control.
And the good news is there’s a better way. We can take more control of our happiness and our contentment and ultimately, our lives.
We can do this just by focusing more on internal reasons for doing, on internal meaning and purpose for what we do and why we do what we do.
Why do I write these blogs? Because I like writing.
Why do I post on social media? Because I find it helpful.
These are much stronger and more stable reasons for doing these things than wanting approval from others or from wanting a certain number of “likes”.
HOW CAN YOU APPLY THIS IN YOUR LIFE?