10 Secrets To Being More Content (So Nobody Can Take Your Joy Away)

10 Secrets To Being More Content (So Nobody Can Take Your Joy Away)

Happiness, joy, contentment, satisfaction … which is best?

Well, they’re all good! They’re all variations of positive emotions and there’s no doubt that the more we experience (genuine) positive emotions the better our lives.

At the same time, we’re all different. So some of us will tend more towards the high arousal versions, like happiness and joy, while others will tend more towards the lower arousal types, like calm and contentment.

Neither is better or worse. They’re all good. We just need to find the right balance that works for us …

via Your Tango by Susan Heitler

Well-being is a positive state of mind. It emanates from self-acceptance, acceptance of others, activities that you enjoy, and a sense of commitment to your goals.

Your sense of well-being indicates that when negative feelings come up or you face bumps in the road of life, you know what to do to feel better soon. Well-being is enhanced by feeling that you know who you are and with whom you belong. Does positive well-being sound appealing to you?

Here are ten tips on how to be more content so nobody can take your joy away.

1. Specialize in generating and sharing positive energy.

Gratitude generates joy. How often do you count your blessings and have awareness of the good that has entered your life lately? Seeing what is good in your circumstances enhances feelings of well-being. How often do you express appreciation, agreement, and affection to others? How often do you smile at others, meet gazes, or pat someone on the shoulder?

Sharing positive connections and feelings increases others’ sense of well-being, which in turn will cause you to feel more pleasure.

Interestingly, prayer offers an ancient remedy to the tendency to forget to focus on the blessings in your life. Most prayer centers on appreciation and expressing gratitude to a higher power, which is probably why church or other religious observances engender warm and positive “spiritual” feelings.

Folks who think appreciative thoughts when they first wake up in the morning or just before going to sleep at night reap similar benefits. So, skip the criticism, complaints, blame, and snippy comments. The negative energy that you generate from these kinds of comments doubles, while your positivity declines. That’s because people remember negative moments more readily and intensely than positive ones.

2. Decide to be a problem-solver.

When problems arise, do you find yourself feeling mad, sad, or scared, and then getting stuck in irritation, depression, or anxiety? As soon as you hit a bump in life — a dilemma, an annoyance, a tough decision, a conflict, or an issue — go straight to problem-solving mode and ask yourself what you can do to fix the difficulty. In most cases, as soon as you figure out a plan of action, your negative feelings will flow away, replaced by satisfying feelings of well-being. Look for what you can add to a solution instead of telling others what they could or should do, unless they ask for suggestions from you.

Why grumble and regret, suffer from anxious feelings, get annoyed, or sink into discouragement when you can feel better by just looking for solutions?

3. Harness yourself to a project.

I once visited a Sufi guru in Pakistan. One of the favorite sayings of this very wise man was: “Cars run best uphill.” I found his way of expressing this principle amusing. At the same time, I realized that many religions express this wisdom and that it highlights an important reality: people feel best when they have a project, a mission, or an objective to which they can harness their energies.

Christians emphasize finding a “calling.” Jewish wisdom describes an overall self-enriching goal of making the world a better place. Hikers talk about leaving the trail better than you found it. Athletes enjoy working toward the goal of getting better and better at their sport. Business people seek to earn money.

Neurobiologists identify that pursuing a goal — a goal of any type — stimulates the production of dopamine which is, as writer Loretta Breuning says, a “happy chemical.” So, harness your energies to work projects, earn money, to raise a family, or create beauty. Whatever it may be, attaching yourself to a project, or multiple projects, is life-enriching…

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