27 Jul How to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
Even if you’re happy now, most of us have goals we still want to achieve.
This is, by no means, a bad thing. But it can make happiness elusive if we’re constantly chasing something that’s always in the future.
So, we can be more accepting and grateful of where we are now; and, therefore, probably happier.
Or we can strive to close the gap, and achieve our goals, thereby moving us forward towards more happiness.
Or we can do both!
Either way, if these are questions you find yourself asking, you’ll probably want to read on …
via Psychology Today by Evan Parks
KEY POINTS
- Individuals are skilled at being on autopilot and looking away from the difficult issues in their lives.
- Identifying basic emotional needs will help people clarify why they hurt and the direction they want to head.
- By embracing the gaps in their life, a person can harness that power to create the life they’ve always wanted.
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One of the greatest sources of distress we experience is losing our connection to what gives our lives meaning and purpose. We get caught up in the pressures of daily life, struggle to form lasting, healthy habits, and get distracted by the unhelpful thoughts that remind us of our shortcomings. Before you give up on yourself, learn how to view the gaps in your life as a source of strength rather than a sign of defeat.
I have grown to appreciate how uncomfortable people are at looking at the important areas of their lives and the gaps that exist. This includes me. But I remind myself that it’s our distress that points to what really matters. It’s when we focus on that pain that we can find the power to create the life we want.
Looking the Other Way
We are excellent at being on autopilot, not really thinking about where we are heading or why. We are good at focusing on the urgent tasks directly in front of us, putting out one fire after another, not considering the bigger questions of life and the person we want to become.
One of the main barriers to examining our lives is the immediate realization of how far we are from where we want to be. The gap between who I am and who I want to be and the gap between what I want and what I have can be a source of genuine pain.
Losing a connection to what is important to us can be so distressing that we stay focused on the tyranny of the urgent and distract ourselves with entertainment, substances, and momentary pleasure. Meanwhile, time passes, but nothing changes in our lives…
… keep reading the full & original article HERE