4 Irrational Beliefs That May Be Holding You Back From Happiness—And What Can Help

4 Irrational Beliefs That May Be Holding You Back From Happiness—And What Can Help

There are things we can all do to boost our. happiness.

But as well as engaging in positive behaviours, to positively enhance positive emotions like happiness, most of us will also need to stop doing, or undo negative behaviours that detract from our happiness.

Are certain unhelpful beliefs holding you back from enjoying life and more happiness? To find our, read on …

via Well and Good by Helen Carefoot

When you wake up in the morning, you can’t be sure of what the day will bring. Even with the best-laid plans and routines, much of what happens when you step outside is out of your control. This fact can kick off a spiral of negative thinking, as you face challenges throughout the day, and make you forget that you do have some say in what happens to you because you can control your reactions to what happens.

But when irrational beliefs and thought patterns take hold and obscure this, they can disrupt your life and hold you back from happiness. But by challengingthe irrational beliefs disrupting your life and creating action steps to minimize them, you can defang them, which is the principle behind rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), a type of cognitive behavioral therapy that operates from the idea that you’re in control of your actions.

What is rational emotive behavior therapy?

REBT was invented by psychologist Albert Ellis, PhD, in the 1950s. “The idea is that you’re trying to get somebody to walk away from an irrational belief and replace it with a less inflammatory belief,” says REBT trained-therapist Antoinette Bonafede, LMSW.

“The idea is that you’re trying to get somebody to walk away from an irrational belief and replace it with a less inflammatory belief.”—Antoinette Bonafede, LMSW

The REBT approach accounts for the fact you don’t know what’s going to happen to you, but is based on the premise that you can control how you respond and how you choose to reason and work through what happens. “The goal is not to never feel angry, or anxious, or sad—it’s to be able to correctly place that feeling so you can respond in a way that best represents how you’re feeling and make it as clear as possible so you can be better understood,” Bonafede says…

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