05 Jul 15 Signs You’re Doing Great In Life (Even If You Don’t Feel Like It)
For some of us, happiness is closer and more achievable than it sometimes seems.
Some of us, are doing much better than we give ourselves credit for; and so for some of us, happiness is right there for the taking, if only we acknowledged more of the good things we were already doing …
via Your Tango by Lianne Avila
Everyone’s heard this self-help platitude: We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else.
This may be true, but we learn self-love by being loved, especially in the places where we feel most unsure and most vulnerable. When you love yourself, you are better able to receive love.
It’s easy to pick the parts you don’t like about yourself. I hear it all the time in my practice. If I were to ask my clients three things they hate about themselves, the question would be easy to answer.
But when I ask them to tell me three things they love about themselves, they often sit there in silence. I tell them, “Three is a small number,” and that there are many more great things about themselves.
Why do people in our society struggle so much with loving themselves? We are human, we are not perfect, and we all make mistakes. So, it’s time to stop hating yourself and realize that you’re already doing incredibly well in life, even if you don’t believe it to be true.
Here are 15 signs you’re doing well in life.
1. You choose yourself.
Even if it upsets others, this means setting better boundaries with friends or even your boss. This helps you sleep better and feel better about yourself.
It’s easy to put ourselves last. Many things get in the way, like work or family. Start to put yourself first on the list. It really is true that we can’t take care of anyone else unless we take care of ourselves.
2. You give yourself a permission slip to mess up.
Allow yourself to make mistakes. No one is perfect. We’re human and we all make mistakes.
This is like giving yourself a pass, just like you would to a friend or family member. It’s easy to give others a permission slip, but not ourselves. Stop putting the expectation of being perfect on yourself.
3. You allow yourself to dream.
Remember when you were a child and all the dreams you had back then? What happened to them? Don’t focus on whether or not they come true, just allow them to happen. This will do wonders for your emotional state…
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