Social Mindfulness, “Vitamin S,” and Well-Being

Social Mindfulness, “Vitamin S,” and Well-Being

I’ve written and spoken much about the critical importance of friendships and connectedness to happiness and wellbeing.

The simple fact is, that positive relationships and a sense of belonging are probably THE MOST IMPORTANT contributors to happiness, thriving, flourishing and even longevity.

Within this is what some call pro-social behaviours and if you’d like to learn more then read on …

via Psychology Today by Marianna Pogosyan


  • Social mindfulness refers to being considerate of others and their needs before making decisions.
  • Connection and Vitamin S (sociality) is essential for our well-being.
  • We often form our judgments of others based on their warmth, integrity, and competence.

In most recipes for leading healthy and happy lives, the center stage is reserved for our close relationships. Often, however, it’s the moments of connection with complete strangers that add distinct sweetness to our days. Someone helping us look for our lost keys; someone offering us a sincere compliment; someone not buying the last apple cake in case we wanted it more.

This flavor of active pro-sociality — being considerate of others and their needs, before making decisions — is referred to as social mindfulness. Like with Emerson’s image of happiness as a perfume whose droplets inevitably spill on the person who pours it onto others, the rewards of kindness are all-embracing. Doing good nourishes the well-being of the givers, the receivers, and even the witnesses of the kind acts.

As Danusha Laméris considers in her poem Small Kindnesses, perhaps these socially mindful exchanges we have with each other are even more important than we realize:

What if they are the true dwelling of the holy, these
fleeting temples we make together when we say, “Here,
have my seat,” “Go ahead — you first,” “I like your hat.”

Psychologist Paul van Lange has been investigating social mindfulness for over a decade. His research has yielded fascinating insights. For example, people in Japan are among the most socially mindful in the world; despite its unwholesome nature, gossip can serve a protective function for groups; and kindness is a key that opens a myriad of possibilities. “When we are sitting in our comfortable apartments, it can be tempting for us to stay there,” he says. “But by simply going outside, we are stepping into a world of opportunity to experience connection.”

Here’s Dr. van Lange on human connection…

… keep reading the full & original article HERE

AND AS A BONUS, within positive relationships are positive conversations. So here’s another great article, via Very Well Mind by Sanjana Gupta, titled “50 Deep Conversation Starters for Meaningful Connections” … HERE