27 May The Skill of Self-Forgetting
Self-care is important for happiness and wellbeing.
But self-care is NOT selfishness or self-obsessing.
Sometimes, some of us, can become too focused on just us. And sometimes, some of us, can jeopardise our happiness in the process …
via Psychology Today by Bruce Wilson
KEY POINTS
- Cognitive defusion involves noticing your thoughts without getting caught up or buying into the thoughts.
- A self-forgetful humility could help alleviate some of the need we have for self absorption.
- The overly sensitive nature of the social media user can manifest into many of our psychological maladjustments.
- We are struggling to understand how we disengage from ourselves.
“To discover yourself, you must first lose yourself.” – Unknown source
Self absorption has become the new mental albatross. Our mental capacity has reached a threshold level through a hypertrophied sense of self. High levels of anxiety, depression, stress, and cognitive dissonance are now endemic in modern living.
We are so focused on ourselves that we are making ourselves unwell. Why is this happening? Is it possible that self-awareness has reached a point of diminishing returns?
Cognitive Defusion
Intrusive thoughts and overthinking in general are common maladaptive complaints that clients acknowledge in 2023. We are becoming stuck in our thoughts.
Cognitive defusion involves noticing your thoughts without getting caught up or buying into the thoughts. Repeating thoughts of depression and anxiety only serves to reinforce and strengthen the binding quality of such thinking. “I’m always anxious” thinking feeds our anxiety. Observing your thoughts is a mindful approach to noticing without reinforcing your thinking. There is a conscious separation of one’s thoughts from one’s personal identity (Duarte-Noe, 2022).
“The surest way to lose your self-worth is by trying to find it through the eyes of others.” – Becca Lee
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