3 Ways to Reclaim Your Happiness

3 Ways to Reclaim Your Happiness

Happiness is great; and there’s no doubt it has many benefits.

But we can’t enjoy happiness ALL the time.

We all experience dark days and dark emotions. But when we do, there are things we can do to bounce back and to reclaim happiness …

via Psychology Today by Mark Travers


  • A large part of the human experience is dealing with life’s inevitable ups and downs.
  • One pathway to happiness has to do with finding and engaging in activities that capture all of your attention.
  • Tapping into the feelings of fulfillment that come from helping others in need is another route to happiness.

Happiness is the holy grail of mental health care. We all want to wake up feeling inspired, move through our day with cascading positivity, and go to sleep feeling warm, loved, and fulfilled—and repeat it again the next day.

Unfortunately, happiness is not something we can ever truly wrap our arms around. A large part of the human experience is dealing with life’s inevitable ups and downs. Some days, things seem to click. Other days, we feel like we’re playing defense or simply attempting to minimize the damage.

The truth is that life is too dynamic for any of us to ever feel like we have a firm grip on happiness. It’s important to understand this so you don’t start thinking there’s something wrong with you every time you temporarily lose touch with your positivity.

It’s also important to understand that happiness comes in different forms and flavors. Sometimes, digging yourself out of a mental rut is more about matching the right flavor of happiness to your needs than it is about “rediscovering your happiness” in an abstract, all-encompassing sense.

Here are three research-backed pathways to happiness you can choose from when that little voice in the pit of your stomach tells you it’s time to make a change.

1. Tap into “passive happiness.”

Being happy can mean many different things. Sometimes, it’s about laughter, love, movement, and passion. Other times, it’s more about balance, calm, quietude, and serenity.

Don’t overlook these “passive” states of happiness. They can help you bridge the gap between the times you are, say, having fun while being physically active or at a social hour with a group of friends.

Passive happiness is a natural complement to active happiness. Both states are fleeting, so when one fades, try your best to invoke the other. Here are a few ways you can tap into your passive happiness:

  • Practice mindfulness. Focus on the present moment, act purposefully, and allow your internal thoughts to enmesh with your external environment. According to a recent study published in Acta Psychologica, mindfulness can help mitigate emotional dysregulation.
  • Be grateful. Take time throughout the course of your day to reflect on the things that are most important to you. Spend time in nature. Show appreciation for others and be thankful when you receive it back.
  • Forgive. Let go of the past. Don’t harbor resentment or hold grudges. One study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that forgiveness, as opposed to revenge, helped restore people’s sense of humanity and belongingness. If you find yourself being reluctant to forgive someone who has hurt you, ask yourself what your personal barriers to forgiveness are and take time to reflect on how remaining in an unforgiving state is affecting your emotional well-being…

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