A Psychologist Shares 3 Tips To Help You Become A More Patient Person

A Psychologist Shares 3 Tips To Help You Become A More Patient Person

Happiness isn’t always in the here and now.

Living in the moment has benefits, but there’s no doubt that in many situations, happiness comes from working towards longer term, meaningful goals.

As such, happiness requires patience.

And if you think more patience would add to your happiness then read on …

via Forbes by Mark Travers

Many people come to therapy complaining about how waiting is just too hard for them. They may say things like:

  • “I know I just have to wait for him to call like he says, but I still end up calling him first.”
  • “If I could have just held out a little bit longer, that promotion would have been mine.”
  • “I don’t understand why it would take so long, it’s just too frustrating.”

While intellectually we may be aware of how good things brew in time, in practice we often struggle to sit back and let things fall into place. Anger, irritation, and frustration are a trio of negative emotions that contribute to the vicious cycle of hopelessness and increased impatience.

Here are three things to practice if you struggle to stay on the right side of time.

#1. Accept uncertainty

A hard truth for many to learn is to be okay giving up control and taking in experiences as they come. The absence of predictability might fill you with anxiety and a fear of lost opportunities.

study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology suggests that even though practicing patience can be an excruciating task, especially in the face of uncertain endpoints, we are all better at it than we think. Furthermore, our ability to practice patience increases in step with our desire for the reward. In other words, waiting for something we truly care about is easier than waiting for something we only halfway care about.

Of course, life is full of curveballs and surprises for which one cannot always be prepared. A few things that can help you manage your worry triggered by unexpected events are:

  • Focusing on what you can control and influence instead of what you cannot. When taking control of a situation may not be an option, you can choose to step back and reflect upon your choice of responses.
  • Keeping a positive outlook on what the situation may bring with it. Last minute changes can bring discomfort. But, with a more long-term vision, one can learn to find the silver lining.
  • Letting go of the difficult emotions that hold you back from moving forward. Holding on to anxiety, restlessness, and fear fuels a negative cycle. Instead, accept the difficulty of uncertainty and learn to flow with it to emerge stronger on the other side…

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