The Belief That You Are Not Enough: 3 Steps to Understand and Let It Go

26 Mar The Belief That You Are Not Enough: 3 Steps to Understand and Let It Go

I’m not sure about you but I think at least on some days, most of us feel like we’re not enough.

I definitely feel like this; a lot.

For most of my life I’ve felt I’m not enough … not smart enough, not hard working enough, not good looking enough or kind enough or patient enough and, this list could go on and on.

And not surprisingly, these feelings are NOT good for my happiness and wellbeing!

But in a strange way, I’m reassured when I accept that most people feel like this at times. And so I don’t feel quite so alone. But to really enjoy more happiness there’s more we can and need to do …

via Inc.com by Moshe Engelberg

Are you enough?“No. I’m not enough,” Robert responded during a coaching session. I coach highly successful executives, many of whom hold this core belief about themselves — despite their many outward achievements. They don’t say those exact words, yet the wound shows through how they lead and live.

It’s painful to believe you’re never enough. To cope, you may push harder and do more. Or blame others to take the focus off you. Or numb your feelings and be super-busy to avoid the pain. Regardless of what you achieve, these strategies (achieving, blaming, and numbing) will provide only temporary relief. The not-enough belief still comes through.

The alternative is to really dig into what being not enough is really about, how that belief came to be, and what sustains it. This requires taking a hard look in the mirror — with love, compassion, and support. You can see and accept how this belief impacts your leadership and life and what stories you tell yourself to perpetuate it. Then you can move into letting it go, and ultimately releasing the pain and suffering. What a relief!

1. Do you believe you are enough?
2. What are you thinking and telling yourself about yourself?
3. What is the world objectively telling you about you being enough?

3 Amare Steps to Start Reclaiming Being Enough

1. Go internal to get clear…

… keep reading the full & original article HERE