Choosing Happiness? You can always begin taking small steps to bring more happiness into your life.

Choosing Happiness? You can always begin taking small steps to bring more happiness into your life.

via Psychology Today by Robert Puff

In pop culture today, you hear a lot about happiness. It’s often sold as something we can possess and keep forever. According to this description, happiness is similar to eye color—once we have it, it’ll stay with us for life. 

But rather than a fixed state of being, happiness is a work in progress. The good news is that if we’re not happy, we can work toward change. And the bad news is that if we neglect to focus on it, we run the risk of bringing more unhappiness into our lives. 

In this way, happiness is similar to being physically fit. If we maintain a healthy diet and exercise regularly, then we will improve our overall health. The big plus with happiness is that unlike our physical well-being, which will deteriorate with age, we can continually work on our happiness forever.

If you’re like me, you lead a busy life. From raising kids to working a demanding job, your daily calendar is full, and you have countless interests competing for your time. When you’re navigating your day and you’re presented with multiple options, how do you choose how you’ll spend your time? 

Simply ask yourself, “Is this [insert your activity here] going to feed my soul?” 

Allow me to illustrate how this works. 

I live in Southern California, and I was visiting San Juan Capistrano Mission, which is one of a series of missions founded by Spanish priests that straddles California’s coast. San Juan Capistrano is one of the most well-preserved and beautiful of the 21 missions. 

I’m lucky to live close to it, and I make time to visit it regularly to find peace and quiet amid my busy life. That day, I spent an hour strolling quietly through the corridors and appreciating the beautiful gardens throughout the mission. 

Later that evening, I scheduled one hour to watch a TV show. It’s very popular, and many of my friends recommended it. Trusting their opinions, I decided to rent two episodes. After seeing the first, I agreed with what my friends had told me. It was beautifully produced and well written. At the same time, the plot was dark and negative. On another day, I decided to give the series a second try, but I came away with the same feeling. 

Using the question I provided earlier, I had two options for how to spend one hour in the future. I could continue watching the TV series my friends suggested or spend time at Mission San Juan Capistrano. 

After seeing the program, I could ask myself, “Is the TV series going to fill my soul?” And the answer would be no. Meanwhile, the answer would be a clear yes when it came to visiting the mission. 

This is the choice that worked for me. That doesn’t mean it will work for you. For example, if you were raised Roman Catholic and your experience growing up left you with a negative perspective about the religion (or any for that matter), then the mission may do the opposite of feeding your soul…

… keep reading the full & original article HERE