How to create the ‘moments’ that change your life

How to create the ‘moments’ that change your life

With 2020 just a few days away, who’d like more happiness?

And who things that more happiness might come from creating more life changing moments?

Happiness really is just lots of positive moments; those little things that ultimately add up to … the big things.

So for a happier New Year and a 2020 filled with happiness moments, keep reading…

via the Ladders by Benjamin Hardy

In the book, THE POWER OF MOMENTS, Chip and Dan Heath explain that moments matter. When recalling memories, we generally focus on 3 key components of moments:

  • peaks (highs)
  • pits (lows)
  • transitions (shifts)

It’s not surprising that these are the memories that stick out the most. What is surprising, according to Chip and Dan Heath, is that very few people INVEST in such moments.

Most people reactively let the most powerful experiences happen. Few people continuously create those experiences.

The average person experiences almost all of their “peak” experiences in their teens and 20’s. These experiences taper-off in most people’s 30’s and are basically non-existent as a person gets older and older.

According to Dr. Abraham Maslow, peak experiences are necessary to becoming self-actualized — which is where you’ve fully developed as a person and can pursue your highest potential.

Most people plateau at a certain stage of their development. They stop dealing with the highs, lows, and transitions of growth. Instead, they seek the safety of stability.

This safety shields them from the risks, pain, and seeking that is required for growth.

Growth isn’t supposed to feel good at the moment.

Confidence and dopamine are not the same things.

In today’s fast-paced and ever-changing environment, the norm for most people is to seek short-term dopamine highs, followed by long-term internal conflict and regret.

The reverse of this pattern is to seek confidence, which is the product of consistent and congruent decisions. The common notion that confidence leads to success is flat wrong. It’s successful behavior that creates confidence. You cannot have confidence without positive behaviors.

Creating More Life-Shifting “Memories”

If you took a minute to examine your recent past, when is the last “peak” experience you can recall?

When is the last powerful “moment” that shifted how you saw the world?

When was the last time you attempted something you’ve never done before?

When was the last time you put everything on the line for your convictions?

When was the last time you made a real decision? Said Tony Robbins, “A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.”

Life-changing moments are inherently emotional…

…keep reading the full & original article HERE