30 Apr More happiness in your relationship with 7 life hacks (according to psychologists)!
via Bustle by Kristine Fellezar
When you’ve been feeling unhappy in your relationship, it’s easy to feel like things may be coming to an end. But that’s not always the case. You can always turn things around if you want to. According to therapists, there are some things you can do to feel happier in your relationship again.
“In order to have a happy relationship, it needs consistent care, attention and effort,” Stephanie Macadaan, LMFT, creator of The Happy Couple Plan, tells Bustle. “For some reason, most couples think their relationship should be self-regulating and just work, but that is not the case.”
Therapy may not be for everyone. But getting help from a therapist can give you strategies you can use to find happiness in your relationship again. As relationship therapist Corrin Voeller, tells Bustle, “I specialize in working with people considering divorce, who are so done and fed up. But I’ve seen those people make changes, love their relationship, and find happiness and fulfillment once again. It helps to have guidance of a therapist.”
You don’t always need to find someone else in order to have a happy relationship. If you still love your partner and you do want things to work, here are some hacks that will make you happier in your relationship.
1. Initiate Change And Commit To It
If something in your relationship is making you feel stuck or unhappy, do something about it. “Go first,” Voeller says. “Commit yourself to making changes, no matter what the other person is doing. If you both wait for changes, you may be waiting forever.” So take the initiative and do what you can to make your relationship better.
2. Focus On What’s Going Well
When your relationship isn’t the picture of perfection, it’s easy to focus on all the little things that you’re lacking or what your partner is doing wrong. Comparing your relationship to other couples will only make you feel jealous and worse about yours. In order to bring more positivity and happiness into your relationship, stop comparing and start practicing gratitude.
“Remember that even though the couple at the table next to you at dinner looks happy, they have their own set of struggles and challenges that you don’t know anything about,” Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle. “Focus on the things you and your partner do together that are positive, empathetic, and unique talents that set you apart from other couples.”
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