30 Jan What if happiness was just accepting … being ordinary?
Happiness is often associated with being our best.
Happiness is often considered the result of extraordinary and special efforts.
And these are both true of happiness.
But happiness is also about acknowledging and accepting the ordinary, simple moments.
And maybe happiness is about accepting it’s OK to be ordinary ourselves…
via the Ladders by Benjamin P Hardy
“We like to think of our champions and idols as superheroes who were born different from us. We don’t like to think of them as relatively ordinary people who made themselves extraordinary.” ― Carol Dweck, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
Do you see yourself as “ordinary” or “special”?
Likewise, do you see people who have achieved incredible things — people like Michael Jordan, Beethoven, and other seemingly godlike figures — as “ordinary” or “special”?
Interestingly, if you see yourself and/or others as “special,” then you fall into what Dr. Carol Dweck calls a “fixed mindset.”
Special implies some inherent trait that separates or draws a line between yourself and others.
If you view people who have achieved brilliant things as “special” or “different” rather than “ordinary,” then there is no way you can become like them.
If you view yourself as “special” and “different,” then that mindset will at some point paralyze you from being seen as anything otherwise. Your fear of not being viewed as special will stop you from trying bigger stuff that might fail.
You’ll plateau very quick with this mindset.
When you dig into the psychology of those who have achieved greatness, more often then not, they view themselves as ordinary and trying to get better. They aren’t obsessed with their skills. Instead, they are focused on their goals and the efforts it takes to achieve them. They aren’t thinking about the past, but the future. And their future is fundamentally bigger than their past. As a result, they are HUMBLE about where they are…
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