9 ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship

9 ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship

What’s happiness without others?

We can definitely be happy alone; but other people are indubitably important for real and meaningful happiness and life satisfaction.

And this is certainly true of our intimate relationships; so for more happiness, keep your relationships alive and well with these 9 great tips…

via Bustle by Kristine Fellizar

It’s been said that being in love is like an addiction. When you’re deliriously happy from all the intense feelings you get around your partner, you’ll want to be around them as much as possible. But as many of know, being with someone who’s just as excited to be around you makes these feelings that much sweeter. So, how can you grow in that love with your partner?

First, let’s get really clear on what a “healthy addiction” looks like. Someone can be in total infatuation or be deeply in love with someone in a healthy way if they’re still able to go to work, get their tasks done, or maintain an independent lifestyle. “If one were to develop a co-dependency to another, this would be a clear case of unhealthy addiction,” Jenna Ponaman, CPC, ELI-MP tells Bustle.

It’s also important to take note that trying to reignite the spark for each other is not about manipulating each other in any way. It’s more about finding little hacks to deepen your bond and bring you closer together as a couple. When you’re deeply in love, those butterflies can stick around long after the honeymoon period. So here are some effective ways to keep attraction alive in your relationship, according to experts.

1. Keep Finding Ways To Catch Your Partner’s Eye

If you want to get that spark going again, making eye contact as much as possible can make that happen. “According to positive psychology researcher Barbara Fredrickson, making eye contact produces neural synchrony,” Noelle Cordeaux, sexologist and co-founder of JRNI, tells Bustle. “This enables synchronized releases of oxytocin, which makes couples feel a fantastic burst and then feel even better about each other.” Although it’s super simple, it can have a lasting effect.

2. Share Good News

This is called capitalization, Cordeaux says. According to The Cut, it’s the “most important relationship concept” you’ve probably never heard of. Basically capitalization happens when “loving feelings and affection are fortified anytime two or more people connect over a shared positive emotion.” It’s a process of sharing good news, like your successes, and receiving a positive response in return. “These positively curated micro-moments lead to deeper bonds and improved health,” Cordeaux says. It’s all about showing each other support and encouragement. When you’re with someone who supports you and shares in your happiness, of course you’re going to feel connected…

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