Stop beating yourself up and dragging yourself down!

Stop beating yourself up and dragging yourself down!

Happiness will always be hard if … you constantly beat yourself up!

Happiness will always be hard if … you drag yourself down all the time!

Happiness will be so much more achievable if you turn your negative, inner self-dialogue in to something more constructive…

via by Amy Morin

Whether you tell yourself, “I’m never going to be promoted,” or you constantly think, “People think I’m weird,” negative self-talk affects how you feel and how you behave. In fact, the conversations you have with yourself often turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, imagine someone who thinks, “I’m socially awkward and no one wants to talk to me.” To cope with his awkwardness, he avoids striking up conversations with people and limits his interactions. Consequently, people think he is socially awkward and his belief about himself is confirmed.

Over the years, I’ve worked with countless people in my therapy office on changing their negative dialogue. And I’ve seen first-hand how developing a more productive inner dialogue helps individuals build the mental muscle they need to create positive change.

So whether you call yourself names or you always talk yourself out of trying something new, here’s how to deal with negative thoughts in a healthy way:

1. Recognize Your Negative Thoughts

When you get an email from the boss that says, “I need to meet with you as soon as possible,” is your first thought that you’re about to be fired or do you think you must be getting a raise?

Many of your thoughts are automatic. They just pop into your head without any conscious effort.

So it’s important to take a second to evaluate your thoughts so you can recognize thoughts that are unrealistic, unproductive, or irrational

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