29 Mar 8 types of people who’re not good for your happiness
Happiness … it’s up to you.
But happiness … is also influenced by those around you.
Accordingly, you might want to avoid (or at least minimise your time with) some of these types of people …
via Inc.com by Jessica Stillman
Just how terribly destructive can spending time with toxic people be? Science offers a few clues (and they’re all disturbing).
First, psychological research shows that criticism and insults are five times more powerful than compliments. That means if you want to keep your marriage flourishing, for instance, you need to have five positive interactions to make up for every negative one.
And what’s true in relationships is true at work too. Jerks, sadly, have more impact than superstars. When Harvard Business School professors calculated the cost of hiring a toxic employee versus the value of hiring a superstar, they found that adding a jerk to your team will actually cost you twice as much as hiring one A-player will earn you.
Taken together, the evidence shows that even minimal interaction with negative people can have an outsized impact on your performance and happiness. So what should you do about it? If a helpful thread on question-and-answer site Quora is anything to go by, the answer is simple: just avoid these types of energy-sucking, toxic people like the plague.
1. Gossip mongers
“Watch out for those types who deliberately tear other people down. One day, they will tear you down too,” cautions writer Nurjean Chaneco. Likewise, engineer Lamia Amine warns readers to steer well clear of “people who want to know every single thing about your life and others’ lives, just to gossip about it.”
2. The hopelessly self-destructive
If someone refuses to take responsibility for their terrible choices, their drama will infect your life and sap your energy, warns attorney Athena Ponce.
“I’m not saying you should shun anyone with bad habits,” she writes. “But there are some people who become defensive, combative, and full of excuses when you point out obvious, severe lapses in judgment in attempts to help them…. If having to provide support for people who act this way causes you stress and never-ending frustration, it’s best to stay away. They have no intention of growing as people.”
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