If you want to be a lot happier, then stop doing these 11 things ASAP!

If you want to be a lot happier, then stop doing these 11 things ASAP!

via Inc.com by Jeff Haden

One way to be a lot happier is to adopt some new habits, some new outlooks…basically to start doing things that will make you happier.

Another way to be happier is to stop doing things–especially any (or all) of the following:

1. Clinging only to what you know.

When you’re afraid or insecure, you hold on tightly to what you know, even if what you know isn’t particularly good for you.

An absence of fear or insecurity isn’t happiness: It’s just an absence of fear or insecurity.

Holding on to what you think you need won’t make you happier; letting go, so you can reach for and try to earn what you want, will.

Even if you don’t succeed in earning what you want, the act of trying alone will make you feel better about yourself.

2. Blaming other people.

People make mistakes. Employees don’t meet your expectations. Vendors don’t deliver on time.

So you blame them for your problems.

But you’re also to blame. Maybe you didn’t provide enough training. Maybe you didn’t build in enough of a buffer. Maybe you asked too much, too soon.

Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead of blaming others isn’t masochistic, it’s empowering–because then you focus on doing things better or smarter next time.

And when you get better or smarter, you also get happier.

3. Impressing other people.

No one likes you for your clothes, your car, your possessions, your title, or your accomplishments. Those are all “things.” People may like your things–but that doesn’t mean they like you.

Sure, superficially they might seem to, but superficial is also insubstantial, and a relationship that is not based on substance is not a real relationship.

Genuine relationships make you happier, and you’ll only form genuine relationships when you stop trying to impress and start trying to just be yourself…

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