01 Apr 11 things you should stop right now…because they’re only making you miserable!
Enjoying happiness and a good life can be achieved in at least two ways…
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do more things that make you happy
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do less things that make you unhappy!
Sometimes, for a variety of reasons, we engage in behaviours that quite simply, make us miserable. But if we're aware of them then we can, if we so choose, stop or reduce these behaviours and accordingly, enjoy more happiness (and health and success etc).
So check out this Huffington Post article and if you recognise any of the items on the list then find a way to stop them ASAP …
by Susie Moore
Oftentimes we read about what we can do to increase our happiness through valuable tips, tricks and techniques. I love reading this stuff and noticing the impact it has on my day and my life. Sometimes equally important is identifying what habits we have that negate all of the positive mindset gearing we do.
Here are 11 things many of us are guilty of that sabotage our peace, joy and calm:
1. Hold a grudge
Forgiveness is the key to freedom. As Marianne Williamson says, "Forgiveness is actually out of self-interest." When we hate, feel anger or resentment towards another, the intended impact, to hurt them, backfires on us. We harbor the anger and resentment within our own minds and bodies. And it's poisonous. Under Williamson's advice, try to see a situation differently. How must my enemy have felt to act the way they did? What fear did they feel? What good qualities does this person have that perhaps I have never thought about? I have four sisters, and one of them has not spoken to me in 12 years — despite lots of effort on my part. It made me confused and angry for a long time. My forgiveness way of thinking opened me up to compassion. When I think of her now I do so with love. It takes practice but this does get easier.
2. Give up on our dreams
To me this is the saddest one. As Marie Forleo says, "The world needs that special gift that only you have." So often we bury our gifts, follow a "safe" path or simply do not have the courage to pursue what it is that we want. This results in a lot of regret later in life and even in the present moment. I heard once that the definition of hell is when the person you are meets the person you could have been. Our inner voice knows when we are not living our truth and this voice does not go away although we do our best to tune it out. By ignoring our dreams we are not sharing our unique gifts with the world.
3. Not make time for what brings us joy
This is aligned with number two. Do you love to write, draw, sing, teach? When we do not make what brings us joy a priority we are often completely unaware of the happiness we could be experiencing. It results is a much less rich, less colorful life.
4. Settle for superficial relationships
Since moving to New York I really noticed this. When making new friends I realized that a lot of time people do not talk about things that really matter, let alone make themselves vulnerable. Whenever I bring up my early divorce or humble upbringing, people tend to open up with me too, as we all secretly want to make a genuine connection with other people. People often tell me, "Its so nice to talk about this stuff." We don't realize that connecting with others has nothing to do with our exotic vacations or successful career stories — it is about making a soul connection which often arises from deeper conversations…
…read the full & original article HERE