Are you making any of these 7 mistakes? Because they could well be stealing your happiness!

Are you making any of these 7 mistakes? Because they could well be stealing your happiness!

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by Peter Shallard

As the Shrink for Entrepreneurs I work with people who are notorious seekers of freedom and happiness.  They march to the beat of their own drum and have figured out ingenious strategies for being the masters of their own destinies.

The poem Invictus, by William Ernest Henley, best sums up the tenacious spirit and unquenchable thirst for freedom and happiness that inspires humans to reach for self mastery:

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.

Even if you don’t run your own business (yet), you can adopt an entrepreneurial mindset to help you become more intentional, more focused, and ultimately happier and free of unwanted constraints.  Yes, you can be “the captain of your soul.”

The first step, though, is to fix the little mistakes that have been holding you back and stealing your energy and happiness for far too long.  Let’s take a look at seven such mistakes and some ways to get back on track…

1.  Ignoring what you CAN control.

Enormous freedom and power will be yours the minute you start seeing yourself on the cause side of the “cause and effect” equation.  Your thoughts and behaviors are creating your reality.  Every move you make matters.  You are in charge of your thinking, which also means you are in charge of your actions and results.

What you focus on and put energy into every day will determine the results you produce in life.  Embracing this philosophy is the secret to being in control of your destiny.  Yes, occasionally something will happen that’s outside your control, but rolling with it, rather than against it, will produce the best possible results.  In other words, it is not always what happens to you, but how you respond to what happens to you that matters most.

So no matter what happens, be intentional and do your best.  You won’t enjoy your life if you don’t enjoy your challenges.  When things go wrong, instead of blaming the world, ask yourself, “What can I learn from this?” and “What’s the next best step I can take from here?”

Think this way and your personal growth is guaranteed.

2.  Worrying about what you CAN’T control.

You can control a lot in your life, but sometimes finding true freedom means knowing what you absolutely can’t change, or understanding what constraints you have to work within to build the life you want.

Entrepreneurs are widely known for being innovative, which is all about finding creative ways to bust through constraints.  When this happens, it appears as though the impossible becomes possible.

“Constraints inspire creativity” is the credo of Twitter Founder Jack Dorsey.  Finding freedom through constraints is all about accepting the things you can’t change, and then finding creative ways around these obstacles.

You might have an absolute need to make money to pay your bills – let’s call that a “constraint” – but you can be creative about the way you make that money.  If you’re going to be totally free and happy with your chosen life path, you have to worry less about the things you have no control over (the need for money), so you can focus your creative efforts on what you CAN control (the source of income you choose to create).

3.  Believing someone else’s definition of success.

Define success for yourself.  You don’t need to measure up to other people’s benchmarks.  The psychological root of most unhappiness lies in external validation, which happens when you try to measure your self-worth based on the opinions of others.

It’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts.  You, and only you, get to decide what kind of life you want to live.  Other people’s goals and expectations don’t matter that much in the long-run.  Never forget that.

When you become “the master of your own fate,” you get to choose what that fate is.  You might want a jet-set glamorous lifestyle, or you may just crave peace, quiet and security.  In any case, it’s a good thing that the seven billion humans on this planet all don’t want precisely the same thing in life.  So decide what your heart really yearns for and commit to living for that, and little else.  Let your intuition guide you…

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