24 Apr 17 things happy people say every day
Some great ideas here from Bill Murphy Jr of Inc.com
There's an easy-to-articulate, hard-to-implement best practice when it comes to how to teach yourself to be happy. It stems from the recognition that the positive things you do for other people often reverberate back to create positivity in your own life. In effect, doing little things to make other people happy can greatly improve your happiness.
Make sense? There are two theories at work. The first is that focusing on others creates joy of its own accord. The second is that as you succeed in improving others' happiness, you'll wind up with happier, more grateful people around you. They'll find you likable and charismatic, which in turn can lead them to treat you in a manner that produces even more happiness.
It's easier said than done, but fortunately, there's a compelling shortcut. Your words are among your greatest tools, so you can have an outsize effect on others simply by thinking about what you say every day and making an effort to be both positive and sincere. There are certain inspiring things that truly happy people find themselves saying to others all the time. Try making an effort to say a few of these every day for a week. You'll be amazed at how the positivity you create improves your happiness.
1. "I'm happy to see you."
This is the most basic and attractive sentiment you can express to another human being–that simply being in the person's presence creates a positive feeling. Whether you're telling an employee that you need his skills, that you value his opinions, or just that you think he's good company, you've begun an interaction on a very high note. How can that not produce some level of happiness in the other person?
2. "I'm always happy to see you."
Take the previous remark a step further. This is the opposite of most relationship advice–that you should never take a specific negative action and suggest that it's indicative of someone's entire way of acting. Well, turn that on its head, by expressing that it's not just this interaction that has produced positive feelings but basically all interactions with this person. It's an amazingly gratifying thing to hear.
3. "Remember when you…"
Surprise someone by bringing up a positive thing that she did in the past, and you're almost guaranteed to induce a positive response. Maybe it's a joke the person told that you're still laughing about; maybe it's a small act of heroism she performed. Regardless, if it's something she thought was long forgotten, learning that something she did made a positive, lasting impression on someone else is an amazing experience…
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