Finding happiness

Finding happiness

“Happiness does not come from success, success comes from happiness” – Buddha

I do that. I have a concept of success in my mind: business man, spiritual, no negative thoughts and feelings, no fear or complaining, confident, loving, beautiful and strong. I believe that if I have that I’ll be happy. I’m regularly not happy because of it.

When I feel fear or ashamed, I’m actually ashamed of the feeling itself. I’m ashamed of being ashamed. I don’t accept that a part of me has that, i get angry and try to deny it. Believe me, it doesn’t work, the negative energy only grows.

So, in Buddha’s idea, can I first be happy and then reach the concept of success, or am I supposed to reach success in order to be happy? It seems hard to do, to be happy with my current life situation. But I tried it, just smiling and being happy with the side that I like to call my old side, the old, small, scared and self pitying Luca. It actually works. I can be happy with the thought that I had very negative experiences in my youth and that I felt horrible and ashamed and afraid. YES I CAN!

To read more of this interesting personal story on finding happiness (which, by the way) is relatively consistent with our positive psychology approach to coaching) – click here