08 Mar 7 things to say to your partner for a happy relationships
via Bustle by Kristine Fellizar
Anyone can have a happy relationship if they put in the work. Sometimes the small things like what you say to your partner on a day to day basis really matters. Because according to experts and research, couples in happier relationships tend to say certain things to each other more often than everyone else.
As Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle, “Couples who have been in long-term relationships or marriages have a totally different style of communication.”ADVERTISING
Happier and more successful long-term couples tend to be less reactive and more reflective. For instance, if one partner gets angry or triggered by the other, they know how to pause and take a time out before coming together to work things out. “Both parties do not choose reaction, irrational words, or quick hurtful jabs,” Ziskind says. “Instead, both parties know how to see the big picture.” They choose their words carefully and work together as a team to resolve issues as they come.
But it’s not always about the words you don’t say to each other. If you’re going to be in a successful, long-term relationship, you also need to be mindful of the words and phrases you say to your partner each day. So here are some things couples in happier relationships tend to say more often, according to experts.
1″You Make Me Laugh”
“Couples who laugh together have usually the best relationships because they can mutually enjoy each other’s jokes, and similar interests,” Mackenzie Riel, relationship expert with TooTimid, tells Bustle. In fact, a 2014 study published in the journal Personal Relationships found that couples who laugh together more often tend to have “higher-quality” relationships.
2″You’re The Best”
“After 40 years of research, John Gottman concluded that the happiest couples communicate in an engaged and positive manner that psychologists call Active Constructive Responding (ARC),” Anne Nelson, CAPP, ACC, positive psychology practitioner and coach, tells Bustle. Gottman found that couples who created a “culture” of respect and appreciation by constantly showing interest in each other were happier in their relationship overall. “They were each other’s biggest fan, communicating excitement over the little and big things,” Nelson says. “Essentially, kindness served as the glue that held the marriages together.”
…keep reading the full & original article HERE