What if you could change or even save someone’s life? Would you do it?

What if you could change or even save someone’s life? Would you do it?

What if you could change or even save someone else’s life…

…would you do it???

…I’m pretty sure you would. Or at least, I’m pretty sure you think you would. But would you really? In the real world?

I don’t mean to question your honesty; but I do know that sometimes we don’t always follow through despite having the best intentions.

More often than not, this doesn’t have any significant consequences; but in the situation I’m proposing today it can have. In fact, those consequences can be life or death!

About what am I talking?

I’m referring to checking in with a friend, family member or colleague. I’m talking about asking “R U OK?” if or when you notice something concerning or something that’s not quite right.

Most people when asked note that of course they’d ask this simple question. But when I recently asked a group of friends why they’d never or only rarely checked in with me, despite my public pronouncements of suffering with mental ill-health from time to time, they described the following reasons. Among other things, for example, they thought…

  • I was doing OK
  • I would let them know if I needed help
  • they might upset me by probing
  • they might make it worse
  • they might say the wrong thing

All of these are valid concerns but the reality is that asking someone if they’re OK won’t make things worse; it won’t upset anyone if posed in a caring and compassionate way; it doesn’t matter if you don’t get your words “perfect”; and many people who’re depressed and/or distressed put on a brave face and don’t ask for help (due to thinking they’re a burden, not worthwhile or some other reasons).

So put aside your concerns. Keep an eye out for your buddies and loved ones. Don’t wait for “the right time”. And ask the question. I’d hate to think there’ll be a day you might regret not asking it!

…So that’s today’s mailing. Take some time to reflect upon the message and how it might apply to you. Check out, also, the links below for some additional readings and resources.

I hope it helps you enjoy some more happiness. Until next time…

Keep well & keep smiling
Tim Sharp (aka Dr Happy)