26 May If You Keep Doing These 13 Things, You’ll Be Eternally Unhappy
Enjoying happiness is partly about doing the right things, the things that will positively contribute to and create positive emotions and experiences.
But enjoying happiness is ALSO partly about NOT doing, or stopping, those things that detract from positive emotions and from living a good life.
Here are a few things you might want to considering STOPPING if you want to enjoy more happiness …
via Your Tango by Heather Gray
Life is not in our control. What we can control, though, is how we respond to what we are given. T
he difference between happy people and chronically unhappy people is how they choose to exert the control they have in their own lives.
If you keep doing these 13 things, you’ll be eternally unhappy:
1. Chronically unhappy people stop at the part where life is hard
They become distraught and frozen with inaction. They bemoan what life has handed them and become a victim of circumstance. They focus their lack of control on what happened to them, rather than on what they can do in response to whatever happened.
Chronically unhappy people take unforeseen events as proof that there’s no point in doing anything and that they have no real control over the situation at hand. They are unable to identify any action they could take that might make things better.
2. Chronically unhappy people lead with fear
They fear change. They fear vulnerability and rejection. Chronically unhappy people are afraid of things becoming worse or of what might be asked of them to make things better. They stop at that fear, rather than work through it.
3. Chronically unhappy people leave their emotional baggage unpacked
Chronically unhappy people just shut down when life happens. Like anyone, they’ve been knocked down by life but they fail to get back up. This is often because when they’re flat on the ground with their emotional baggage scattered around them, they fail to ask for or accept help in picking up the broken pieces.
They don’t talk about it, process it, or deal with it. They don’t go to therapy. They don’t work it out at the gym or talk it over with a friend.
Chronically unhappy people don’t allow themselves to heal completely and therefore, they never really live completely…
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